Hetty Cary

Female 1836 - 1892  (56 years)


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  • Name Hetty Cary 
    Born 15 May 1836  Baltimore, Independent Cities, Maryland, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [1
    Gender Female 
    Occupation Between 1866 and 1879 
    teacher 
    Burial 1892  St Thomas Episcopal Cem, Owings Mills, Baltimore, Maryland, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [1
    Buried 1892  Owings Mills, Baltimore, Maryland, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [1
    Died 27 Sep 1892  Baltimore, Independent Cities, Maryland, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [2
    Notes 
    • In the Baltimore Sun article, "Belle Run", Roger Cary describes Hetty, her younger sister, Jenny, and their cousin, Constance, as three of the most celebrated belles of the South during the Civil War. They smuggled supplies, sewed flags and uniforms, nursed the wounded and, in their spare time, partied, played charades and courted with the likes of cavalry commander J. E. B. Stuart and Confederate President Jefferson Davis.
      He goes on to say that they were the pin-up girls of the Civil War, selling war bonds. They visited wounded troops at makeshift hospitals and broke ranks with society and brought out a lot of people of stature to do the same. These girls were hell bent for leather, and damn well did as they pleased.
      By the spring of 1861 the family was living in a row house on Eutaw Street at the corner of Biddle (now the site of Maryland General Hospital). Hetty was 25, sister Jenny was 23, and their brother, Wilson, was nearly 22. Their father was notary public. His fortunes had stabilized, but the nation was falling apart, and Baltimore was in turmoil. Abraham Lincoln's election prompted South Carolina to secede. He was not exactly loved in Maryland, either, winning only 2 percent of the state vote.
      In April events veered out of control with the Confederate bombardment of Fort Sumpter. Lincoln called for 75,000 new troops, and an answering regiment of volunteers passing through Baltimore clashed with a mob on April 19. Four soldiers and twelve civilians were killed. Martial law followed, clamping down on the city. Secessionists, lawmakers, police administrators and newspaper editors were arrested, including Francis Key Howard, editor of the Baltimore Exchange and grandson of Francis Scott Key. For a while, he was jailed at Fort McHenry.
      When native Marylander, James Ryder Randall read about it all in a Louisiana newspaper, he penned a nine-stanza rant about depression beneath "the despot's heel," which was published in Baltimore papers. It caught the attention of a secessionist circle of young women known as the Monument Street Girls, and Hetty and Jenny Cary were among them.
      Jenny set the poem to the tune of an old college song, "O, Tannebaum", and the girls sang it to their friends. It was called "Maryland, My Maryland," a rallying cry for the Confederacy, and in 1939 it became the state song, inflammatory lyrics and all.
      Under threat of arrest they left Baltimore and set out for Richmond, arriving in July 1861. Here they continued their actions of sewing uniforms and battle flags, visiting hospitals and singing to the troops.
      After the death of her husband, Hetty returned to Baltimore.
      She was born at Haystacks, the family's farmhouse in northeast Baltimore Co.. The house still stands at Glen Arm and Williams Road.
      He grave stone is inscribed as follows:
      "Beautiful Brilliant Brave
      of pure and noble heart
      true and generous soul
      in the battle of life
      heroic in death triumphant"
    Person ID I5349  mytree
    Last Modified 2 Jun 2016 

    Father Wilson Miles Cary,   b. 02 Sep 1806, Williamsburg, Independent Cities, Virginia, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 09 Jan 1877, Baltimore, Independent Cities, Maryland, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 70 years) 
    Relationship Natural 
    Mother Jane Margaret Carr,   b. 15 Mar 1809,   d. 22 Jan 1903, Baltimore, Independent Cities, Maryland, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 93 years) 
    Relationship Natural 
    Married 16 Sep 1830 
    Family ID F2235  Group Sheet

    Family 1 John Pegram,   b. 24 Jan 1832, Petersburg, Independent Cities, Virginia, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 06 Feb 1865, Petersburg, Independent Cities, Virginia, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 33 years) 
    Married 19 Jan 1865  St Paul's Episcopal Church, Richmond, Independent Cities, Virginia, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [1, 3
    Notes 
    • John Pegram was a Brigadier General in the Civil War under Longstreet and is referred in the Source as a friend of General Sorrel.
    Last Modified 2 Jun 2016 
    Family ID F2242  Group Sheet

    Family 2 Henry Newell Martin 
    Married 20 Dec 1879 
    Notes 
    • He was an Irishman, a Fellow of Christ College, Cambridge and a Johns Hopkins Professor
    Last Modified 2 Jun 2016 
    Family ID F2243  Group Sheet

  • Event Map
    Link to Google MapsBorn - 15 May 1836 - Baltimore, Independent Cities, Maryland, USA Link to Google Earth
    Link to Google MapsMarried - 19 Jan 1865 - St Paul's Episcopal Church, Richmond, Independent Cities, Virginia, USA Link to Google Earth
    Link to Google MapsBurial - 1892 - St Thomas Episcopal Cem, Owings Mills, Baltimore, Maryland, USA Link to Google Earth
    Link to Google MapsBuried - 1892 - Owings Mills, Baltimore, Maryland, USA Link to Google Earth
    Link to Google MapsDied - 27 Sep 1892 - Baltimore, Independent Cities, Maryland, USA Link to Google Earth
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  • Sources 
    1. [S1] "Belle Run", Hetty Cary, Roger D. Cary, Suffern, N.Y., (Name: Baltimore Sun, Wednesday, October 25, 2000;).

    2. [S74] Internet, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hetty_Cary.

    3. [S109] Recollections of a Confederate Staff Officer, General G. Moxley Sorrel, (Name: Morningside Bookshop;), Page 52.


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